( Sincere and ramble-y tend to go hand-in-hand with Ian. He keeps himself in check externally to an excessive degree, and never really reflects the amount of over-thinking going on behind the scenes. As soon as you strip out the filter, all those thoughts come tumbling out at once. It never feels simple, almost nothing is ever simple for him. It's analyzing the situation from different perspectives constantly.
In college, one of his favorite teachers gave him advice he's been applying ever since — maybe before, without realizing it:
When you're building something, imagine that it's broken and try to reverse-engineer what went wrong. This will allow you to consider the potential weak points in your design.
Unfortunately, he takes that a few steps too far and applies it to all areas in life. Even, and sometimes especially, the places it shouldn't be applied. )
I know you're not blaming me, I'm blaming me, but it's okay. I'll work on it.
I'm willing to talk about it. I'm just not great at the getting to the talking part. I'm actually really, really terrible at the getting to the talking part. I don't know what it is, but I'll try to figure that out, too. In the meantime, maybe there needs to be like a system or a code word or a check-in shortcut that isn't a big deal or something I don't know I don't even know what I'm saying. That's not a thing people do. Jesus Christ.
( He's slamming that send button before he even reads it this time, because he knows himself well enough to know he'd probably delete the whole damn thing and send back something more shut off. )
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In college, one of his favorite teachers gave him advice he's been applying ever since — maybe before, without realizing it:
When you're building something, imagine that it's broken and try to reverse-engineer what went wrong. This will allow you to consider the potential weak points in your design.
Unfortunately, he takes that a few steps too far and applies it to all areas in life. Even, and sometimes especially, the places it shouldn't be applied. )
I know you're not blaming me, I'm blaming me, but it's okay. I'll work on it.
I'm willing to talk about it. I'm just not great at the getting to the talking part. I'm actually really, really terrible at the getting to the talking part. I don't know what it is, but I'll try to figure that out, too. In the meantime, maybe there needs to be like a system or a code word or a check-in shortcut that isn't a big deal or something
I don't know
I don't even know what I'm saying. That's not a thing people do. Jesus Christ.
( He's slamming that send button before he even reads it this time, because he knows himself well enough to know he'd probably delete the whole damn thing and send back something more shut off. )